Comments on: Do you apologize to your kids?

By: Cindi

Cindi — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 07:13:39 +0000

Yes, luckily I don’t feel that the need to apologize to my children happens very often. There are days when I amy scold a little too harshly and immediately let them know it. Also, I try to instill in them that how your treat others is how they will treat you.
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By: Denise Schipani

Denise Schipani — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 15:41:55 +0000

I agree on apologizing when you mess up, but I’m veeeerrry careful about over-apologizing. I think it’s too easy for parents to SAY that they only apologize when they go overboard with yelling or something similar (and want to convey, as you wrote, the idea that we are all human, we all mess up, and we all should be honest enough to own up), but then in practice end up falling all over themselves apologizing for everything. I see it a lot in my own family: parents apologizing that a kid couldn’t go to a party; that the kid is at a family party and “there’s no one for you to play with”; and on and on. Or, apologizing FOR the kids, which is a huge no-no in my book. “Oh, he’s just tired, or hungry, or bored…” which may be true, but when the kid hears that over and over again, well, you know what happens.

By: Ulrike

Ulrike — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 13:40:24 +0000

I apologize when I feel I ought to. In order for kids to grow into polite, responsible and understanding adults, they need to see these sort of actions. I feel that parenting is as as much about setting a good example as it is about ‘telling them’ about rules and regulations, if not more so, and they need to learn that when someone is wrong they should apologize. I am a parent and make mistakes, so why not admit it. I would like them to do the same.

By: Kathy

Kathy — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 13:23:19 +0000

Yes, I do. I agree that it teaches them that “even adults” mess up and need to apologize. How bad it would be to live in a world in which the strong and those in authority considered themselves to be above apologizing, as if they were infallible!
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By: Rosey

Rosey — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 12:51:17 +0000

If it’s necessary, I do. There was an incident this summer where my daughter kept telling me I said something that I knew I didn’t, and I raised my voice. Later, something triggered my memory and I realized I DID say to her what she’s been telling me I said, and I was quick to admit I was wrong and apologize.

I agree w/your sentiment of setting a good example being of major importance. I am always cognizant of the fact that there are little ones taking in all I say and do, and that somehow my actions and how I raised them will be a part of their lives always and forever. I just want them to look back and know they were loved and respected, and that I did my best. That includes apologizing when I am dead wrong.