Comments on: How my depression affected Miss Type-A

By: Tiffani

Tiffani — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 01:58:53 +0000

I think I understand what you’re saying … you don’t want her to take on the weight of the world just because she can. I think it’s great that you’re trying to get her to relax more and just be. A lot of parents would just take advantage of her personality and pile on more responsibilities.

Hang in there!
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By: Jolinda

Jolinda — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 23:32:57 +0000

I still worry about the fact you want to place blame on yourself. Please don’t…
And, I agree, ‘they’ do tend to take things too seriously sometimes; and I remember saying those same things to Amanda. They do need to be reminded to relax. Things like music and art help with that, and you have been able to give her those options as well. You are doing a great job with her; and all your kids. You are “in tune” with them; that is great! If she is anything like mine; she will be more mature; and get bored with childlike behavior. But, once in awhile, she will ‘act her age’ and it will remind you that she is still your wonderful ‘child’!!

By: Karen Bannan from NaturalAsPossibleMom

Karen Bannan from NaturalAsPossibleMom — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 23:12:44 +0000

When my dad died I became a parent of sorts to my mom, who was very depressed and sad. I’d turn off songs that made her cry. I’d try and cheer her up. I was all of six at the time. And all that care made me the person and the mom I am today.

Don’t stress too much over this. It’s who she is. She would have been that way depression or no depression, I promise you.

–KB
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By: Sarah E. Ludwig

Sarah E. Ludwig — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 18:27:01 +0000

Hi Stephanie, thanks for your comment. I don’t think my depression caused her personality, but I think it made her more worried and needful of control than she may have been otherwise. I could be wrong, maybe she would have been this way anyhow. I just think that the whole experience was particularly hard on her because she tends to take as much responsibility as she’s allowed upon herself.

And I know what you mean about giving some responsibility to #2 — we’ve got the same thing going on here.

By: Sarah E. Ludwig

Sarah E. Ludwig — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 18:24:33 +0000

Aw, thanks, Josh!

By: Sarah E. Ludwig

Sarah E. Ludwig — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 18:05:52 +0000

Jo, I’m not trying to change her at all, believe me! I love her personality in most ways. She’s a super-easy child.

HOWEVER, I worry about her because she makes herself sick over everything and gets very stressed out. I know that’s her personality, but I’m trying to teach her how to relax, not worry so much and to think about other people’s feelings more. Just like you said.

So, basically, I agree with everything you said. =)

By: Jolinda

Jolinda — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 15:03:37 +0000

I think you may be worrying too much. Don’t change her!! Amanda, now 16, is a type A and it is WONDERFUL. She always has her responsibilities taken care of; she is an excellent student; etc. etc. etc. Amanda is also bossy to her siblings; but it has its benefits. Sometimes siblings listen better to each other when it comes to certain issues. Kate is starting to look to Amanda for advice also. What’s wrong with that? When I hear Amanda talk to her siblings in a way that makes me cringe; I REMIND Amanda that she needs to use better tactfulness; or be more accepting of others ideas; etc. I guide her perseverance; not hold it back; or try to shut it down. I look at their personalities as God’s gifts; and we are there to focus them for Good and not Evil! Good Luck! And please don’t blame your depression on their personalities; cuz its a lot more about nature than you think!

By: Josh

Josh — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 14:36:40 +0000

Another great and insightful series of posts (and also sad, of course). It’s been so great getting to know you again.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 12:26:59 +0000

Don’t blame your depression, without such a curve in our road, my oldest daughter exhibits many of the traits you describe as well… to the extent that it was recommended that we take some responsibility away from her & give it to #2 child…but she’ll hardly hear of it!LOL